Okay, so you’ve watched the videos, read some testimonials, read the facts, and you sorta want to change, but how are you really going to remain abstinent?
Let’s be honest. It’s not going to be easy.
Our culture is tough, and you’re going against the current, but here are some good ways to have fun, be challenged, and hold the bar high for your standards in dating relationships!
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- Connect with a supportive adult, preferably a parent. If a parent isn’t going to be a good choice, find another relative, a spiritual leader, a trusted teacher, or a counselor . . . someone who will be supportive of your strong decision to wait until your marriage to have sex.
- Choose your friends wisely. Find people who have similar standards. Who you’re hanging out with will help you stay strong in your decision. For starters, you can go to our facebook group, Love180.com, to get connected.
- Don’t drink alcohol. Drinking makes you stupid. Over 70% of teens lose their virginity when they are drunk and not thinking clearly. Read alcohol stats.
- If you’re struggling and need some help or encouragement, feel free to contact us. We’d love to hear from you, and be able to offer you support.
Law of the Sumos
Sumo wrestlers. Yes, those big, heavy guys wearing thongs trying to push each other out of the circle . . . not a pretty sight. Usually, the bigger guy wins.
In your life, there are two Sumos.
There’s sexual-out-of-control Sumo, and there’s self-control Sumo. Which one is going to win? Whichever one you feed the most will get bigger and push you around. But how do you feed them? You feed sexual-out-of-control Sumo by watching those music videos, sex scenes in movies, and hanging out with people who are drinking and having hook up sex or going to parties where all that stuff is celebrated.
Guys, you feed sexual-out-of-control Sumo by looking through those magazines, or browsing nasty internet sites.
Girls, you do it by wearing itty bitty clothes showing lots of skin, or chatting online where there is lots of talk about sex.
However, you feed self-control Sumo completely differently. You get psyched about your friendships, your freedom, your hobbies, your sports, your music, your schoolwork, your faith, your future plans, and your future love. You enjoy being young without having to worry about STD’s, pregnancy, emotional baggage, jealousies, and all the other complications that come with having sex out of place. You hang out with people who have high standards and are choosing real love just like you are. Whichever Sumo you feed will determine which one pulls the weight in your life.
So . . . which one is going to win?
Golden Rule of Dating
You’ve heard the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” The Golden Rule of dating is: “Do with your date, what you would want someone else doing with your future spouse.” Think about what you want to experience with your spouse one day. Do you want them to have been with a bunch sexual partners before you? You may be dating someone else’s spouse, and someone else may be dating yours. Treat your date that way. Hold out for your future love.