Hey! Welcome to the kiddie pool! We’re surrounded by a culture that’s all about immediate gratification and settling for quick fix hook-ups instead of holding out for real deal love. It’s shallow and warm here, (little kids pee in it!), so come on in and splash around!
Sounds fun, doesn’t it?
So you meet someone, you hang out, you go on a couple of dates to McDonald’s. He says you’re beautiful. She thinks you’re hot. You probably wouldn’t even let that person borrow your iPod, but you’ll share bodily fluids with them????? Doesn’t sound very deep, does it?
The above intimacy chart shows different levels of a relationship. A kiddie pool relationship is going to have pretty low levels in most areas, except maybe a soaring sexual level.
This kind of relationship is shallow. It’s the kiddie pool of relationships. Kiddie pools are not a cool place to be. “Oh, this is so exciting! I’m having meaningless relationships with people that hardly I even know. We’re having sex, sharing bodily fluids, maybe getting a lifetime disease, and creating a new life – a baby that we don’t really want – just because that’s what the culture tells us is normal.”
If sexual relationships with people you hardly know made you all so happy, then I guess prostitutes would be really happy people because they get lots of sex with people they don’t really know. But they’re not happy. That’s why most of them are all addicted to drugs.
So it’s something you all have to decide. What do you want? Kiddie pool or ocean? Why not hold out for the good stuff? To be a great athlete, you can’t just do what you want all the time. You can’t go home, and just sit on the couch eating twinkies and watching Oprah. If you want to be a great athlete you need to go out and run, and get in shape, and all that stuff. So you do the hard things first sometimes, and that’s how it is with relationships. Choose Real Love!
“We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in the slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” -C.S. Lewis